Military & Family Life Programs

Keynotes | Training | Retreats | Consults

Dr. Margarita Gurri is by far the most dynamic speaker I have had the privilege of working with. Her patriotism is unparalleled and her love for our country and those who serve to support it shine through in every aspect of her engagements. The common-sense approach to tackling daily military challenges is inspiring. The feedback we receive from our attendees demonstrates that she connects, relates, and inspires service members and families alike. The passion for our Military shines through in her presence and presentations!—Susan Hare, Warrior & Family Support Regional Coordinator

Programs for
Military Leaders | Teams | Organizations

Leadership Communication
Manage Tears, Tempers, and Drama



  • Be a Red Shoe Leader
  • Master seven communication competencies
  • Bring out the best in each team member
  • Explore ethical foundations by misbehaving

Step into the role of 6 disruptive communicator styles with empathy to brainstorm strategies to bring out their best. Practice the mindsets and skills of a Red Shoe Leader.

Deal with Difficult People
Manage Six Difficult Communication Styles

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Reduce stress, increase productivity, and bring out the best in your team.

Understand six styles of difficult people

  • Harness the power of conflict with humor
  • Learn by misbehaving as difficult people
  • Create a Red Shoe Leader Action Plan

Leadership requires practicing new mindsets and skills. Start with empathy, commitment, and a plan.

Manage Conflict
Fair Fighting Priciples

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  • Understand why people misbehave
  • Identify common anger triggers
  • Master Polite Shut-Ups©
  • Practice the Three Levels of Anger communication strategies

Business stress can bring out the worst in the best of us. Handling the different personalities and stressors is key to your success. Mindsets, anger triggers, communication skills, and a bit of humor to bring out the best in you and your team. Provides a deeper dive into group dynamics.

Run Effective Virtual Meetings
Bring Out the Best in Each Team Member


Life's too short for boring meetings that accomplish little.

  • Master the video and audio of remote technologies
  • Engage your team before, during, and after meetings
  • Cultivate a culture of risk for exploring new ideas
  • Manage the flow of communication in times of crisis
  • Deal with disruptive communicator styles
  • Practice strategies for running an effective virtual meeting

Leaders, Teams, Parents, & Couples
Onsite | Hybrid | Virtual

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JBER, AK March 5th and 6th, 2020
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Alyeska Resort, AK February 28-March 1st, 2020


Awareness, Prevention, & Healing
for Kids | Families | Teams


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Purple Up!
Suicide Awareness, Prevention, & Healing


With more frequent deployments, less time between them, and more transitions—depression and suicide struggles are realities that need skill and compassion to address effectively.

  • Notice the signs
  • Practice what to say and do
  • Know available resources day and night
  • Manage the flow of communication
  • Create an Open Discussion culture plan


Why Purple?
There’s a tradition in the military referring to the color purple for military organizations and activites including civilians and military personnel from all branches.

Military kids with the South Dakota National Guard suggested the title of Purple Up. Normally, it's a slogan and color used to celebrate military kids. They generously offered this title and suggested the color purple, as it represents all branches of the military.

What to Do & Say
Save a Life!


Laugh. Play. Connect. Why not prevent suicide with humor, attentive, and authentic connection? Caring, meaning, and wonder saves lives.

  • Notice risk factors
  • Practice what to say and do
  • Learn to listen
  • Use humor and play to connect
  • Know available resources day and night


Wonder, Humor, & Other Antidotes to Misery
Mindsets & Actions

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You can create your happiness and success. Explore mindsets and strategies that foster satisfaction, productivity, and creativity.

  • Learn to use misery to invite clarity and energize positive action
  • Explore humor and play as stress-reduction strategies
  • Understand barriers to mindfulness
  • Practice setting limits with yourself and others
  • Cultivate a culture of wonder


Joyful Rhythms®
Professional Development for Chaplains
& Civilian First Responders | Mental Health Professionals



Chaplains are the first line of defense and the bottom line.
Ongoing support and professional development are essential.

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Goal: prepare chaplains to better foster resilience in families, couples, & parents as they face the joys and challenges of life. Programs range from 45-min to three-day retreats to year-round coaching. Keynotes, breakouts and training, and coaching are available via virtual and onsite formats.

  • Compassion Fatigue in the time of COVID-19
  • Deal with Fatigue, Grief, Loss, and Change
  • Marriage and Couple retreats
  • Family and Parent Wellness retreats
  • Date Night programs
  • Positive Parenting and Temperament
  • Bullies, Heroes, and Victims for Military Kids
  • Tears, Tempers, and Polite Shut-Ups
  • Communication Aikido Listening Toolkit

Foster resilience! Dr. Red Shoe uses playful humor to address the toughest relationship challenges facing military couples, parents, and families. Communication strategies revitalize connection, intimacy, and joy.

Now What?
Self Care for Chaplains & Mental Health Professionals


You make a difference. Now what?
Prevent burnout and secondary trauma with a frank discussion.

  • Embrace self care
  • Create a supportive culture before, during, and after close calls
  • Practice what to say and do
  • Sculpt a personal and team Responder Care Plan


Dr. Margarita Gurri is a consummate professional who brings deep thinking, delightful humor, and authenticity to everything she does whether she's speaking, coaching, problem-solving or writing. I've worked on numerous projects and participated in various brainstorming and mastermind groups with Dr. Gurri focused on ethics, marketing, problem-solving, and communication. I cannot recommend ANYONE more confidently and enthusiastically.—Susan Brender, Communications Expert and Host of “The Susan Brender Show”